Is that love in the air?


The season of love. When chocolate companies make boatloads of cash and overpriced restaurants become overbooked. Yes, I’m talking about Valentine’s Day. No, I am not “anti-Valentine.” I’m just realistic.

As many of you are probably aware, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and that means the couples will be incredibly more lovey-dovey. Men will feel the pressure to make it a great evening filled with flowers, chocolates, and over the top plans. Women will feel like they need to primp as if it’s their wedding day. And everyone who is single will either throw an “anti-Valentine” party or sulk with a carton of Ben & Jerry’s. And then there’s people like me who just think of it as an unfortunate Friday where there is no chocolate to be found, no matter how many drug stores you go to. Now, that is a depressing thought. Seriously, I need my chocolate and I need it now.

My (un)healthy addiction to chocolate aside, this day is also most importantly a day of love. It’s a day to show your loved ones you care by spending the time with them that you haven’t been able to lately because of your job, school, or whatever items keep piling on your to-do list. Trust me, I know what it feels like to have a to-do list that just doesn’t seem to end. I cross one thing off and five more get magically added on.

Aaaaand I went off on a tangent again. But why don’t we spend every day as if it were Valentine’s Day? Why doesn’t Cupid shoot us in the derriere on a daily basis to remind us to get our heads out of our a$#es and show the people around us that we care? It really doesn’t take much of an effort. A simple “thank you”, a long hug, asking how your day is going and sincerely listening. It’s honestly the little things that add up. These large declarations are great but oftentimes they are temporary. We make a grand gesture and then we go back to our lives as if nothing ever changed.

So where does that love go? Nowhere. 

Love is always in the air. It’s just our job as people who love to make sure everyone else can see it. So thank your parents for putting up with you all those years and remembering their love when you annoyed the ever loving s#*t out of them.  Spend some quality time with your significant other. Go out to lunch with your siblings and get caught up on how their lives are going. Give your best friend a call. Sometimes it only takes five minutes to make someone’s day. What’s five minutes compared to another person’s happiness? You’ll never know what you’ve been missing out on in their lives until you ask.

James Baldwin put it best when he said, “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

Love takes workNow are you willing to put that work in?

With Love,



You win some, you lose some


Forty-three. Eight. Two simple numbers. Now put them on a scoreboard. Completely changes their meaning, doesn’t it?

Yes, I am indeed talking about the Superbowl. Today’s game was …. interesting …. for lack of a better descriptor. But some good did come out of it. Well, Seattle fans would say that nothing but good came out of it. But I’m not going to get into who the better team is and who I was rooting for here.

The game made me realize something: You win some and you lose some. Sometimes, you win or lose by a small margin. Take the Superbowl XLVII 3 point difference as an example. And sometimes there is a significant gap. I don’t think I need to give any examples …

But we aren’t defined, or at least we shouldn’t be, by our successes and defeats. We’re defined by the actions we took to get there and how we take a win or a loss. If you work your butt off and in the end don’t win that trophy, are you a loser? If you slack off and get lucky enough to win the grand prize, are you a winner? If you work hard, win, and then taunt the losing team, are you a winner? If you complete a race in last place but show real respect and admiration for the winner, are you a loser?

The answer? No. You are neither a winner nor a  loser. I personally, despise those terms. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, their virtues and vices, their talents and flaws. We all succeed. We all fail. None of us are winners or losers because we are people who do not need labels. 

You are you. I am me. We’re all incredibly unique individuals who simply cannot be stuck into a metaphorical  5 foot by 4 foot box and compared to everyone around us. We need room to breathe and be ourselves to our fullest capabilities and to express that in the way we know best, whatever way that may be.

So quit with the labeling! And remember the words of Arthur Ashe:  “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” 

Discovering where our journey takes us – one step at a time,