The season of love. When chocolate companies make boatloads of cash and overpriced restaurants become overbooked. Yes, I’m talking about Valentine’s Day. No, I am not “anti-Valentine.” I’m just realistic.
As many of you are probably aware, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and that means the couples will be incredibly more lovey-dovey. Men will feel the pressure to make it a great evening filled with flowers, chocolates, and over the top plans. Women will feel like they need to primp as if it’s their wedding day. And everyone who is single will either throw an “anti-Valentine” party or sulk with a carton of Ben & Jerry’s. And then there’s people like me who just think of it as an unfortunate Friday where there is no chocolate to be found, no matter how many drug stores you go to. Now, that is a depressing thought. Seriously, I need my chocolate and I need it now.
My (un)healthy addiction to chocolate aside, this day is also most importantly a day of love. It’s a day to show your loved ones you care by spending the time with them that you haven’t been able to lately because of your job, school, or whatever items keep piling on your to-do list. Trust me, I know what it feels like to have a to-do list that just doesn’t seem to end. I cross one thing off and five more get magically added on.
Aaaaand I went off on a tangent again. But why don’t we spend every day as if it were Valentine’s Day? Why doesn’t Cupid shoot us in the derriere on a daily basis to remind us to get our heads out of our a$#es and show the people around us that we care? It really doesn’t take much of an effort. A simple “thank you”, a long hug, asking how your day is going and sincerely listening. It’s honestly the little things that add up. These large declarations are great but oftentimes they are temporary. We make a grand gesture and then we go back to our lives as if nothing ever changed.
So where does that love go? Nowhere.
Love is always in the air. It’s just our job as people who love to make sure everyone else can see it. So thank your parents for putting up with you all those years and remembering their love when you annoyed the ever loving s#*t out of them. Spend some quality time with your significant other. Go out to lunch with your siblings and get caught up on how their lives are going. Give your best friend a call. Sometimes it only takes five minutes to make someone’s day. What’s five minutes compared to another person’s happiness? You’ll never know what you’ve been missing out on in their lives until you ask.
James Baldwin put it best when he said, “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
Love takes work. Now are you willing to put that work in?