Is that love in the air?


The season of love. When chocolate companies make boatloads of cash and overpriced restaurants become overbooked. Yes, I’m talking about Valentine’s Day. No, I am not “anti-Valentine.” I’m just realistic.

As many of you are probably aware, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and that means the couples will be incredibly more lovey-dovey. Men will feel the pressure to make it a great evening filled with flowers, chocolates, and over the top plans. Women will feel like they need to primp as if it’s their wedding day. And everyone who is single will either throw an “anti-Valentine” party or sulk with a carton of Ben & Jerry’s. And then there’s people like me who just think of it as an unfortunate Friday where there is no chocolate to be found, no matter how many drug stores you go to. Now, that is a depressing thought. Seriously, I need my chocolate and I need it now.

My (un)healthy addiction to chocolate aside, this day is also most importantly a day of love. It’s a day to show your loved ones you care by spending the time with them that you haven’t been able to lately because of your job, school, or whatever items keep piling on your to-do list. Trust me, I know what it feels like to have a to-do list that just doesn’t seem to end. I cross one thing off and five more get magically added on.

Aaaaand I went off on a tangent again. But why don’t we spend every day as if it were Valentine’s Day? Why doesn’t Cupid shoot us in the derriere on a daily basis to remind us to get our heads out of our a$#es and show the people around us that we care? It really doesn’t take much of an effort. A simple “thank you”, a long hug, asking how your day is going and sincerely listening. It’s honestly the little things that add up. These large declarations are great but oftentimes they are temporary. We make a grand gesture and then we go back to our lives as if nothing ever changed.

So where does that love go? Nowhere. 

Love is always in the air. It’s just our job as people who love to make sure everyone else can see it. So thank your parents for putting up with you all those years and remembering their love when you annoyed the ever loving s#*t out of them.  Spend some quality time with your significant other. Go out to lunch with your siblings and get caught up on how their lives are going. Give your best friend a call. Sometimes it only takes five minutes to make someone’s day. What’s five minutes compared to another person’s happiness? You’ll never know what you’ve been missing out on in their lives until you ask.

James Baldwin put it best when he said, “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

Love takes workNow are you willing to put that work in?

With Love,



You win some, you lose some


Forty-three. Eight. Two simple numbers. Now put them on a scoreboard. Completely changes their meaning, doesn’t it?

Yes, I am indeed talking about the Superbowl. Today’s game was …. interesting …. for lack of a better descriptor. But some good did come out of it. Well, Seattle fans would say that nothing but good came out of it. But I’m not going to get into who the better team is and who I was rooting for here.

The game made me realize something: You win some and you lose some. Sometimes, you win or lose by a small margin. Take the Superbowl XLVII 3 point difference as an example. And sometimes there is a significant gap. I don’t think I need to give any examples …

But we aren’t defined, or at least we shouldn’t be, by our successes and defeats. We’re defined by the actions we took to get there and how we take a win or a loss. If you work your butt off and in the end don’t win that trophy, are you a loser? If you slack off and get lucky enough to win the grand prize, are you a winner? If you work hard, win, and then taunt the losing team, are you a winner? If you complete a race in last place but show real respect and admiration for the winner, are you a loser?

The answer? No. You are neither a winner nor a  loser. I personally, despise those terms. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, their virtues and vices, their talents and flaws. We all succeed. We all fail. None of us are winners or losers because we are people who do not need labels. 

You are you. I am me. We’re all incredibly unique individuals who simply cannot be stuck into a metaphorical  5 foot by 4 foot box and compared to everyone around us. We need room to breathe and be ourselves to our fullest capabilities and to express that in the way we know best, whatever way that may be.

So quit with the labeling! And remember the words of Arthur Ashe:  “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” 

Discovering where our journey takes us – one step at a time,


I’m Back!


Hello Intandesis!

I know, I know. You’re all asking the same question: WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN? I realize you’ve all probably been missing my incredibly witty posts (just go along with it) but I PROMISE you I will be blogging on a more regular basis from now. Pinky swear!

Although February is fast approaching, I have yet to ask all you lovely followers about your New Years Eve! What did you do for the special day? Were you cool (lame) like me and watching the ball drop in NYC while rocking out to Miley Cyrus and Blondie (yeah, I’m still wondering whose brilliant idea it was to create that line-up)? Or were you actually at Times Square???!?!?? Or did you have a twenty-fourteen partaaay of your own?

And we all know how “important” New Years Resolutions are for us. How long did that “I’m going to workout EVERY day” thing last for ya? If you’re still fulfilling whichever resolution(s) you chose, here’s a high-five (use your imagination). Seriously, I feel as if everyone and their mothers (and fathers, let’s not forget them) goes on and on and on and on about how “this year is going to be different” and “I’m going to change absolutely everything in my entire life within these next 365 days.” But in reality, that’s probably not going to happen. Hate to sound like such a cynical b*#$& but what exactly are we going to do sooo differently between December 31st and January 1st that will completely change who we are. In my humble opinion, I feel that we should treat every day as New Years Eve. We have this habit (I’ll let you decide if it’s a good one or bad one) of using the New Year as a symbolic shift from “old me” to “new me” when in reality it’s simply a change in perspective. We desire change, we wish for something positive to happen, we hope to set goals and actually complete them. We want to have our cake and eat it, too! Is that so much to ask?

OF COURSE……NOT. We can hope, wish, and desire. And we can achieve all those hopes, wishes, and desires. Guess what small little thing on our part it takes? That’s right, you guessed it. ACTION. If you want something to change, you have to go out and make it happen! You have to proactively reach for it. And if it slips out of your fingers just as you’ve got a handle on it, reach farther and hold on tighter. One of these days, you’ll get it. It might take anywhere from seconds to years but with enough will power and persistence, you will get it.

As the famous Audrey Hepburn once said, “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” 

Cheers to the New Year!




It’s the last week before the famous Thanksgiving break. People return home to be with their families and share a gigantic meal and get their Christmas preparations started. But Thanksgiving isn’t all turkey and football; it’s meant to celebrate the end of the harvest season. The very first Thanksgiving was celebrated all the way back in 1621 in Massachusetts. This tradition was carried on by the Puritans and the Puritans to the New England colonies. Since 1863, it’s been a tradition celebrated annually in the U.S. Thanksgiving also marks the beginning of the holiday season. The day after thanksgiving, Black Friday, is the most popular shopping day of the year where most people get the best sales on their Christmas shopping list. What’s your favorite part of Thanksgiving? And what will you be thankful for this year? Enjoy this festive holiday, spend as much time as you can with your family, and eat as much turkey (or tofurkey for all you vegetarians) and pumpkin pie as you can!


Happy Thanksgiving!


Veteran’s Day


It’s the most wonderful time of the year again! The holidays are just around the corner but people tend to overlook one very important holiday… Veteran’s Day. To young children, it is just another day off from school; but it has a deeper meaning than that. Veteran’s day is a day where we show gratitude to our troops who served their country through a period of war. Whether its Vietnam, Iraq, or any other war, our veterans and troops put their lives on the line to defend their country and its people from international threats. The first Veteran’s day was celebrated back on  November 11, 1919, during the presidency of Woodrow Wilson, after World War I ended. On that day, he had stated “To us in America, the reflections of Veteran’s/Armistice Day will be filled with solemn pride in the heroism of those who died in the country’s service and with gratitude for the victory…”. Throughout the day, many organizations such as the NFL raise money to certain foundations that support our troops at war, those who have died, and those retired and living among us today. What will you do to show thanks to our troops on this historic day? Say thank you to a veteran. Applaud those troops you see in public. Actions such as these show your gratitude and awareness and express how much you care for your country.


Support our troops and God Bless America!


Diwali: The Festival of Lights


It’s almost Halloween and you know what that means? That’s right, midterms! But more importantly, it is time for the most celebrated holiday in South Asia, Diwali!

Diwali is the festival of lights that commemorates the triumph of good over evil. To countries around the world, Diwali means different things. Northern Indians celebrate the return of Lord Rama from fourteen years of exile after he defeated the evil Lord Ravana. Gujarati’s celebrate Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth. Even the Nepalese commemorate Lord Krishna’s triumph over another evil King. In Sri Lanka, Burma, Singapore, Malaysia and other countries in South America and the Caribbean, Diwali is an official holiday. It’s great to see how much India has influenced the rest of the world! A normal Diwali night starts off with a Puja (prayer) and the lighting of the candles, or diyas. Next, enjoy some delicious Indian food. Finally, its time to whip out the fireworks. There is no better way to close out a five day celebration than firecrackers, sparklers and a possible fireworks show. In all, Diwali is a fun holiday for people of all ages. What is your favorite Diwali activity?


Putting a spark in your Diwali celebration,


You and Everyone Else


I saw this image the other day and could not help but share it with all of you. I may have giggled … please don’t judge me … or this little girl who may just remind me a bit too much of myself.

Now, before you ask. Yes there is a reason I posted this. It isn’t just for laughs. Although, that might have played a large role in my actions. It’s also to reiterate the fact that literally everyone in this world is their own unique person. For every single person – that guy sitting at the bus stop, that girl drinking her coffee, that person walking down the street – this statement above holds true. We can make claims that there are these kinds of people vs these kinds of people all we want. We can say that the world is split between good and evil, leaders and followers, or whatever else you can think of. But, in reality, there are way too many types of people (7 billion, 185 million, 618 thousand to be kinda exact) for us to really, truly split all of us up into two simple categories. So the next time, you say, “I wish I was like her” or “I wish I wasn’t so different”, STOP and take those words back. Because you know what the great thing is about being unique? EVERYTHING. 

Now repeat after me (or read aloud): There are only two types of people in the world. There’s me and then there’s everyone else. And that’s exactly how it should be. AND I should be proud of my individuality.

As Martha Graham once said, “You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, then something has been lost.”

Embracing our uniqueness,